The most important thing to understand if you are stuck in grief is that only you can make the decision to get unstuck. Only you can make the decision to move on.

Dr. Tim Clinton observes, "You close yourself off from interactions in life that normally would be healthy for you. You’re so sorrowed that you close your world in.
You start disengaging from life to control your world. But the more you disengage, the more you’ve cut off that life supply."

Choose to move forward in your grief—rebuild relationships, serve others in your community, express your emotions, share your story, begin a new sport, hobby, or activity. Your effort to control your life and cut off relational ties will not help anyone, least of all you.

When Ruth lost her husband, she did not disengage from life. Boaz commented on this and said to Ruth, "I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge" (Ruth 2:11-12). Ruth became the great-grandmother of King David through whose physical lineage came Jesus.

Jesus, I know that I must move on. I am making the decision right now to get myself unstuck from this place in my grief. I need You to replenish my life supply. Amen.

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